Six Simple Rules for Life By John Maxwell

A five-year old slugger smacks the baseball out into the field and sprints toward third base. A tiny midfielder, playing her first soccer match, reaches down and scoops into her arms the ball rolling through the green grass toward her.A small child on the basketball court receives a pass from a teammate and excitedly races to the hoop…without remembering to dribble. If you’ve ever coached a children’s sports team, then you know the importance of explaining the simple rules of the game. Initially, chaos and confusion reign supreme as children accustomed themselves to unfamiliar regulations. Yet over time, the once-confusing rules become second nature, and the kids play together without even having to think about them.

RULES TO LIVE BY
Playing a sport without knowing the rules leads to chaos, confusion, and even can result in injury. Likewise, going through life without a reliable set of rules gives rise to disorder, dissatisfaction, and even harm. In this lesson, I’d like to share six simple rules that have helped me to navigate life. I hope they provide you with food for thought as you consider, or reevaluate, the rules you live by.

RULE #1: Put family first.
Lots of leaders give lip service to putting family first, but they don’t actually practice giving their spouse or kids top priority. What does it mean to put family first? For me, it involves redefining success. I do not measure my success in terms of career accomplishments. For me, success is when those closest to me love and respect me the most. Practically speaking, I make sure to schedule time with loved ones before setting my work calendar. It’s far more important for me to give prime time to my family than to “get ahead” by working overtime.

RULE #2: Follow the Golden Rule.
As followers, we universally ask three questions about our leaders: 1) Do they care for me? 2) Can they help me? 3) Can I trust them?As a leader, regularly pose those same questions to yourself—Am I caring? Am I helping? Am I reliable?—as a reminder to treat others the way you would like to treated.

RULE #3: Take care of yourself.
Doing something for yourself is not a selfish act; it’s a sustaining act. In a university commencement address several years ago, Brian Dyson, CEO of Coca Cola Enterprises, spoke of the relation of work to one’s other responsibilities:Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them—work, family, health, friends and spirit
and you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls—family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.I’ve learned the importance of this rule the hard way—through the trauma of a heart attack. If you’re not carving out time to rest and replenish, to exercise, and to monitor your spiritual wellbeing, then eventually you’ll breakdown. When that happens you’re no good to
anyone.

RULE #4: Choose a positive attitude.
Happiness cannot be won, bought, or brought to you by another person. Rather, it results from a conscious choice to be grateful for our blessings and to make the best of life’s letdowns. Whatever happens to us, we always have control of one thing: our attitude.

RULE #5: Have a personal growth plan.
The key to personal growth is to have a beginner’s mindset. Beginners admit they don’t know everything and proceed accordingly. As a general rule, they’re open and humble, noticeably lacking in the rigidity that often accompanies experience and achievement.

RULE #6: Give more than you receive.
Everyone must ask for help at some point along the journey of life, but each person also has an inborn need to serve others. When I stopped trying to extract value from the people around me, and instead began searching for ways to add value, my influence soared.

Every Man's 10 Commandments

I got this in an email as a forward and I just knew I had to share it. This is brilliant!

1) Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout.

2) So why is a car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the rear view mirror is so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. So, look ahead and move on.

3) Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.

4) All things in life are temporary. If going well, enjoy it, they will not last forever. If going wrong, don't worry, they can't last long either.

5) Old friends are gold! New friends are diamond! If you get a diamond, don't forget the gold! Because to hold a diamond, you always need a base of gold!

6) Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above and says, "Relax,
sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!

7) When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when GOD doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities.

8) A blind person asked St. Anthony: "Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?" He replied: "Yes, losing your vision!"

9) When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them, and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.

10) WORRYING does not take away tomorrow's TROUBLES, it takes away today's PEACE.

Daily Projects in 2012

During my annual Christmas celebration with my dad's side of my family, I was having a talk with my younger cousin. We began talking about apps for our cell phones, and suddenly the topic changed to cool websites. She told me about pinterest.com. It's a website where you can make boards that are filled with ideas such as dream home ideas, recipe ideas, do it yourself ideas, or fitness ideas. The list goes on and on as to what type of board a person creates. Each pin is linked to a website and it is essentially a unique way to gain ideas from all over the internet. These boards that a user creates can serve as a visual "favorites" storage space. The website is quite useful. In the two weeks I've known of the website, I discovered two very unique ideas to capture my year.

The first idea is to create a booklet of 365 things I am thankful for. I'm sure most of the things I pick will somehow tie into my day. I'm anxious to put this together and look forward to looking back at it when it's finished.


The second idea is to create note cards for each individual day of the year. On the note cards, I will put one thing I did that day. This is something I want to keep up so I will be able to look back at January 2nd and see what I did in 2012, 2013, 2014, and so on. This will be a project I continue forever and I feel it will be unique to look back on once two or three years pass. It will be even more neat to look back at in 10 or 15 years.

Finding Meaning

I have a confession: I read a particular blog religiously. This blog can also become a religious obsession for you if you so choose. Click on the following link and be prepared for your life to change: http://www.marcandangel.com/. Ok, seriously, this blog has changed my life and it continues to change my life every Monday.

A few weeks ago, the writers of this blog provided me with a long list of questions that I think everyone should answer. The blog post is entitled "95 Questions to Help You Find Meaning and Happiness." It can be found here: http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/04/95-questions-to-help-you-find-meaning-and-happiness/.

I spent a good two weeks answering these questions. Here's some that I want to share with you that I essentially do not mind the world having access to. The rest are answered and in my personal journal for me to look back and reflect on.

1. In one sentence, who are you? I am Emily; I have a deep passion for life and care a lot about the people in my life.
2. Why do you matter? I matter because there are a lot of people in my life who care about me and need me in my life as much as I need them in my life.
3. What is your life motto? “Love is the only reality”
4. What’s something you have that everyone wants? Happiness

8. What stands between you and happiness? Right now, nothing or nobody.

10. What does the child inside you long for? The uncomplicatedness of relationships when I was a child; I wish they were still the same way.
11. What is one thing right now that you are totally sure of? That I am about to embark on an incredible trip of self-discovery to New Zealand.
12. What’s been bothering you lately? Betrayals, empty promises, and broken dreams

15. What will you never give up on? My family, friends, and horses
16. What do you want to remember forever? Summer 2011

24. What is something you’ve always wanted, but don’t yet have? My own dog, a Greater Swiss Mountain Dog to be exact. Seriously, I think I have wanted one of these dogs since I was 12.

29. What will you never do? Be unfaithful

31. What’s something new you recently learned about yourself? What’s essential to my happiness and what I want out of this life.

39. In one word, how would you describe your personality? Unique
40. What never fails to frustrate you? People

44. What’s something a lot of people do that you disagree with? Making up rumors about other people.

47. What are the top three qualities you look for in a friend? Trustworthiness, Honesty, and Compassion

60. What’s something you disliked when you were younger that you truly enjoy today? Close call between cleaning and cheeseburgers!

66. What’s something you should always be careful with? Trust
67. What should always be taken seriously? Driving and/or any type of commuting
68. What should never be taken seriously? Life…as the quote says… “no one gets out alive anyway”

90. What’s something simple that makes you smile? A sunset

Defining Family

In my Interpersonal Communication class, we spent most of class yesterday defining family. The discussion was thought provoking, and it made me think about how I would define family and who I consider to be my family. We broke up into groups and each group had to come up with a definition for family. Each one was very different, yet they all ended up being similar in unique ways.

I wanted to share them because it was a powerful lecture. If you haven't realized it yet, family is the only thing we are guaranteed in this life. I do not are how old you are, you should cherish your family and make time for them.

Here are the different definitions my classmates came up with:

"The involvement between two or more people who share an unconditional love type relationship and are willing to sacrifice..."

"...at least two people who share an intimate bond where mutual sacrifices shape who we are within the family"

"Unconditionally your own and is unrestricted through blood line..."

"A structural unit comprised of two or more people who feel a sense of permanent belonging towards one another"

"A collection of at least two people who share blood and they form a family who share similar definitions of what a family is"

"A reciprocal support system; two or more people who express compassion and unconditional love to each other"

Does anyone have any guesses as to which one is mine?